Many believe St. Valentine to have been a Christian martyr. Legend says he died on February 14th, 269 AD, leaving a note to the jailer`s daughter, signed `From your Valentine`. Gradually, St. Valentine came to be known as the `patron saint of lovers`.
Every February flowers and gifts are exchanged between loved ones, all in the name of St. Valentine. Valentine`s Day is a very busy floral holiday. The most popular colors of flowers given on Valentine’s Day are red, white, and pink. Red symbolizes passion, white symbolizes purity, pink is a meeting point between the two.
Whether or not you exchange flowers today with your spouse, I do hope you will raise the bar of honor. Whenever a judge walks into a courtroom, everyone stands out of respect and the judge is addressed as “your honor.” I don’t know all the ways we can show honor to one another at home but this I’m sure of: you know what honor looks like when you see it and you know what honor feels like when you experience it.
Martha and I have become fans of the award-winning PBS series Downton Abbey, a show set in England during the early 20th century. It’s still a time of Lords and Ladies. In fact, they refer to each other respectfully as “your lordship” and “your ladyship.” Hokey? Maybe. Respectful? For sure. And whatever respect sounds like and feels like in your home in the 21st century, let it abound in spades.
Words of honor and appreciation are like verbal caresses and you can’t get too much of that. Why don’t you consider adding the word “because” to the end of your affirmations? “I really respect you because” – and then add something specific. I love you because … I’m grateful to you because …
When we use our words to “win” then someone has to lose and when that someone is your spouse you gotta ask, “is this really worth it?” But when you give attention to verbal caresses, you may be amazed at the kind of atmosphere that apt, respectful, honoring words can create. God spoke and worlds were created. Your words have creative power as well.