None of us is as smart as a good group of us. A good group interchange provides a kind of “master mind” that not only helps us solve dilemmas more creatively but it also helps me to know you, and vice versa, in ways that we would not in a one to one conversation.
In his book, The Four Loves, C.S. Lewis says that two is not an ideal number for a friendship and that it takes a group to really know an individual. I was thinking about this concept as I reflected on my group conversations that occurred over the weekend, including but not limited to, a Thursday night Men’s Group on our back porch, a Saturday morning leisurely breakfast with another couple, and a Sunday lunch with family and a new friend. In all of these conversations, the group interchange did what could not have been done one to one.
Every person in a group dynamic brings out something in another person that I could not on my own. They sense a nuanced emotion that I would miss. They connect in a way that I cannot. They hear what I do not pick up on and ask a connecting question that doesn’t even enter the Exosphere of my thinking.
When we get to know another person in the context of a group, we get to know him/her far better than we would on an individual basis. We see facets of this person that others draw out, features and qualities that we would never experience one on one with that person.
It’s just another example that all of us are smarter than some of us and that none of us individually can do what can only be accomplished in the context of relationships. And when Christians gather in high road ways, Jesus shows up to uniquely bring about one good thing after another. “Where two or three are gathered together there I am in the midst of them.”